Some Bollywood Scenes Sold To Us As Romance But Are Problematic AF!

Bollywood has been handing off toxic and sexist acts as romance for decades, and we have undoubtedly gorged ourselves on it. However, the genre has been cleansed recently, resulting in less offensive content. But can we shake off the ideas we got from watching these well-liked romances as kids that we regarded as masterpieces? Unlearning, however, is never a simple process!  And it certainly isn't, given how thoroughly Hindi cinema has stereotyped romance, as these few scenes from Bollywood problematic movies prove. 


The scene in which the two prominent personalities make light of rape is just one of the many troubling things this movie has shown. To negate Aamir Khan's character, Madhu (Madhuri Dixit) accuses him of raping her. And it doesn't end there; he kidnaps her and tells her that he will now show her what rape is. After that, can you imagine these two falling in love? Well, they did. https://youtu.be/NpKOmxxqyPs

Dilwale Dulhania Le Jayenge

Dilwale Dulhania Le Jayenge, celebrated as one of Bollywood's most romantic movies, wasn't any less of a problematic movie. First, Raj (Shah Rukh Khan) believed that sagging a bra over a stranger's face was the proper way to woo her. After he got away with it, he thought lying to Simran (Kajol) about hooking up with her and trying to charm her would make for the perfect meet-cute session. 


The movie's plot centred around this guy (stalker) attempting to win a girl's heart. However, the scene in which Kundan (Dhanush) cuts his wrist to force her to confess exceeds the point at which it could be problematic! https://youtu.be/JEx0fJTV2vo

Gully Boy  

This movie indeed honoured Safeena's (Alia Bhatt) willingness to continue beating any girl who stares at Murad (Ranveer Singh) to make a woman look badass. And she continues to act in this way twice without showing any guilt. https://youtu.be/lcgYBDQ5a94

 Kabir Singh  

Kabir Singh is undoubtedly the most problematic Bollywood movie. Kabir (Shahid Kapoor) repeatedly says and does inappropriate things in the film with her ‘ladylove’. However, he reaches a low point when, in a fit of rage, slaps the girl with whom he claims to be madly in love. https://youtu.be/4ArvBUQdFzE

Kuch Kuch Hota Hai  

In Kuch Kuch Hota Hai, Rahul decides to meet Tina at midnight in a strange way. Even though this was viewed as a charming and harmless act, consider what would happen if this scenario occurred in real life. A man you've only met a few times chooses to climb up your balcony. Is it romantic? Instead, it is quite creepy. https://youtu.be/fMkadvws45A

Toilet- Ek Prem Katha

In our Bollywood flicks, stalking has always been depicted as romance. But Toilet was released in 2017, and we don't expected it to succeed now. Of course, the woman does not object to that and goes on to marry the stalker guy!   https://youtu.be/zGTElkYoe_0

Jab We Met  

Even if Geet (Kareena Kapoor) does some peculiar things in the movie, Jab We Met can still be considered a unique Bollywood romance. However, she showed a pattern when she chose to kiss Aditya instead of chattering to call off her engagement first. https://youtu.be/R-gkiWS2tS8

Tere Naam  

Radhe and Nirjara's entire relationship was anything but romantic. He forms an obsession of her and follows her around wherever she goes. You can spot a huge red flag from miles away in the way he first approaches her. https://youtu.be/4ym0yLY4Cto


We have grown habituated to seeing sinful behaviour on screen, as evidenced by the rage of the dialogue “Pyaar se de rahe hain rakhlo, warna thappad maar ke bhi de sakte hain,” The scene allegedly enacts the male lead in a lovable sense, but it is just downright problematic. https://youtu.be/zoVUoVu1QZU

Main Tera Hero  

Some elements to impress a woman that only Bollywood can justify include:
  • Pursuing her across a college campus.
  • Showing up wherever she goes.
  • Creating a scene out of nothing.
All of that is done by Seenu, who eventually wins over Sunaina. You should watch this movie to know what you should never do! 


Ranbir (Ranbir Kapoor), the film's main lead, follows Sakina (Sonam Kapoor) willfully and forges a one-sided romantic affection for her. Some may say hunting a woman all day is creepy, but it is referred to as romance in Hindi cinema. https://youtu.be/dSFuNdJUkeA

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